Been there. Dated that. Here to help you do it differently.

Coaching that meets you where you are — not where your group chat left off.

You’ve already read the texts 87 times. You’ve already asked your friends what it means. And your therapist? Fully booked.

This is for the moments when your brain won’t shut up, your gut can’t be heard, and you just need someone who gets it — and knows how to help.

Whether it’s one question or a full-blown identity spiral, we can unpack it together. No fluff. No judgment. Just real perspective from someone who’s been through it and built a whole app because of it.

Choose your chaos level

Ask Me Anything

One question. One honest, thoughtful voice note.
You send the context, I send back a 2–3 minute voice memo with a grounded, zero-BS perspective. Whether it’s “Should I text them?” or “Why am I still stuck on this?”, I’ll meet you where you’re at and help you move forward.

Best for:

  • Spiral interruption

  • Quick clarity

  • When you need something honest, real, and bias-free fast

You’ll get:

  • A personalized voice memo within 48 hours

  • A reality check or reframe that actually lands

  • No judgment, just insight

  • Bonus: It’s private, asynchronous, and low-pressure

Pricing: $20

The Check-In

One issue. One Zoom. New perspective.
Sometimes you just need to talk it out — the breakup, the confusion, the self-doubt. This is a focused coaching session to help you feel more grounded and more clear.

Best for:

  • People who want actual answers

  • Getting unstuck after a situationship or ghost

  • Mindset shifts and perspective reframe

You’ll get:

  • 30 minutes of live coaching

  • A short pre-call intake form

  • Light follow-up notes (if helpful)

Pricing: $65

The Deep Dive

The patterns. The blocks. The big stuff.
We’ll unpack what’s showing up in your dating life — where it comes from, what it’s trying to teach you, and how to break the cycle. This is about turning frustration into self-trust, and dating into a place you feel powerful in.

Best for:

  • Breaking long-term patterns

  • Dating fatigue, emotional burnout, or “why does this keep happening to me?”

  • Real transformation with tools + strategy

You’ll get:

  • 60 minutes of coaching

  • A deeper intake form so I can come prepped

  • Personalized tools or recs (depending on what you need)

Pricing: $150

Meet Holly

I’ve been dating for 23 years. I’ve over-functioned. I’ve over-thought. I’ve cried over people I barely knew.

And I’ve coached 100+ people through the same patterns — to help them stop spiraling and start trusting themselves.

Necterine was born out of that — because dating isn’t just about finding someone. It’s about finding yourself in the process.

What I offer isn’t therapy. It’s emotionally intelligent support, grounded perspective, and no-bullshit dating advice and coaching from someone who’s been in it, built something for it, and actually wants to help.

FAQs

(aka “Should I be nervous?” No.)

TL;DR:

  • Zero judgment, always real

  • You can start small and upgrade later

  • This is coaching, not therapy — but it’s still deeply supportive

  • Come as you are — confused, annoyed, self-aware and spiraling — you’re safe here

  • Nope. I’m not a licensed therapist, and this isn’t clinical mental health support. This is coaching — real talk, grounded perspective, and tools that help you better understand yourself and your dating patterns. It’s insight from someone who’s been there and built a whole app because of it.

  • Totally fine. Most people don’t come in with a script. You can just tell me what’s going on and we’ll figure it out from there. (The intake form helps you start sorting it out.)

  • For the voice note offering — yes. Just drop a name you’re comfortable with, and I’ll respond without needing to know the full backstory. The Zoom calls require your email and a bit more info so I can prep.

  • Love that. You can always book a live session afterward. I’ll include a link to upgrade in the follow-up.

  • Because of the time and personalization involved, sessions are non-refundable. But if something comes up, just reach out — I’m human, too.

  • For voice notes, you’ll get a response within 48 hours (often sooner). For live sessions, you’ll pick a time that works for you when you book.

  • Please don’t. I’ve been there. I’ve coached people through everything — the messy, the painful, the wildly specific. I’m not here to judge. I’m here to help.

TL;DR:

  • Zero judgment, always real

  • You can start small and upgrade later

  • This is coaching, not therapy — but it’s still deeply supportive

  • Come as you are — confused, annoyed, self-aware and spiraling — you’re safe here

FAQs (aka “Should I be nervous?” No.)

→ Is this therapy?
Nope. I’m not a licensed therapist, and this isn’t clinical mental health support. This is coaching — real talk, grounded perspective, and tools that help you better understand yourself and your dating patterns. It’s insight from someone who’s been there and built a whole app because of it.

→ What if I don’t know what to ask?
Totally fine. Most people don’t come in with a script. You can just tell me what’s going on and we’ll figure it out from there. (The intake form helps you start sorting it out.)

→ Can I stay anonymous?
For the voice note offering — yes. Just drop a name you’re comfortable with, and I’ll respond without needing to know the full backstory. The Zoom calls require your email and a bit more info so I can prep.

→ What if I want to go deeper after a voice note?
Love that. You can always book a live session afterward. I’ll include a link to upgrade in the follow-up.

→ Is there a refund policy?
Because of the time and personalization involved, sessions are non-refundable. But if something comes up, just reach out — I’m human, too.

→ How fast will I hear back?
For voice notes, you’ll get a response within 48 hours (often sooner). For live sessions, you’ll pick a time that works for you when you book.

→ I feel kind of embarrassed to even ask this question…
Please don’t. I’ve been there. I’ve coached people through everything — the messy, the painful, the wildly specific. I’m not here to judge. I’m here to help.